The support system

"I'm starting to think this world is just a place for us to learn that we need each other more than we want to admit" - Richelle E. Goodrich

Life is full of ups and downs and we are constantly faced with challenges. Some people choose to handle those challenges alone, out of fear of being judged by people around them for not bracing up. The average person in the 21st century refuses to admit they need help as much as the next person. However, we need to know that giving and receiving support is a basic human need. We employ housemaids and nannies even meet our colleagues over tough assignments because we need help. Do you know that happy and peaceful feeling you have when you share a problem with a friend whether emotional or financial and they come to your rescue? I like to call that the 'Support system'.

A support system is a group of people who provide a person with practical, intellectual, emotional, financial, or spiritual support. A support system not only supports us emotionally, they guide us by having people who advice us on the next step to take when we reach a brick wall; teach us either on how to be a better person or just intellectual knowledge; coach us on how to live a great life, succeed and also be a support system to someone else. A support system is a people investment so make good investments by investing in people that make you happy and feel good about yourself. Its advisable to have a support system in place for the 'rainy' days or when we just don't feel great so we don't breakdown. No one is immune to stress and a support system helps reduce our stress and anxiety, make us happier and we can live longer and healthier.      

Who should be in your support system?

• An understanding person who would not judge you and be willing to help
• A positive minded person who believes you can make it through because negative people drain you and make you feel worse. 
• A listener
• A trustworthy person who won't go telling others about what you are going through
• A sensitive person who can easily know when something is wrong
• A financially stable person when what you need is money

You can also be your personal support system by talking with friends when you're down, pushing yourself with positive words and thinking, spending time with friends, become more engaging in activities like sports, volunteering and meeting new people. These things all tend to lift your spirit and make you happier and with time you are able to pull through. 

Don't neglect the support system because even the support system needs support.

Be a support system to your support system because everyone has his/her setbacks too and needs your support as much as you need theirs. Help your support system by building a closer relationship with them and keep in touch. Don't be selfish unless its not longer a support system but a parasitic system. Be the support system you want them to be; be sensitive, listen, be all a support system should be. 

The best way to maintain a good support system is to always show gratitude. They did not have to do it but they did, say thank you every time and mean it. Have boundaries on how far they can go to prevent misunderstandings. Spread your tentacles from time to time, don't lean consistently on one or two support systems so they do not become burdened with so much. 

"The next time you want to withhold your help, or your love, or your support for another for whatever the reason, ask yourself a simple question: do the reasons you want to withhold it reflect more on them or on you? And which reasons do you want defining you forevermore?" - Dan Pearce.

Ponder on those words😔

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